There Will Always Be Love

 

I was still a young priest that time when I was faced with an agonizing moral dilemma. I had arrived the day before the wedding was to be held. The local pastor had taken care of the preliminary instructions and preparations with the couple. I was there to perform the ceremony, or more accurately to witness their vows. Everything was ready and a spirit of joy permeated the home.

Quite by chance, the prospective bride showed me the thorough program they had prepared for the ceremony. The texts had been carefully chosen. Everything was in good order. As I absentmindedly perused the leaflet I read the vows that they had prepared to read to each other after the manner of that time. (Couples were encouraged to write their own expression of their vows to each other in the interest of authenticity.) Some alarms went off in my head as I read their expressions of undying fidelity followed by the expression, "as long as there is love." That troubled me a bit. Surely they did not mean to put a condition on their vows. As the evening wore on my anxiety gnawed at my heart. It would be immoral of me to bear witness to a conditioned promise. I felt the words could be interpreted correctly. I was afraid to ask for fear I would put them in bad faith. I kept saying to myself that it was all right.

Later in the evening, alone with the father of the bride, I casually noted that I was having trouble with the expression: "as long as there is love." I rhetorically remarked that I was sure that they had not put any conditions on their vows. The father, uninitiated into the nicities of Canon Law, casually remarked that he wasn’t too sure. Can you imagine what that did to my conscience? I slept little that night. I tossed and turned until I found a way out short of confronting them about the exact meaning of the expression, as long as there is love.

I handled it like this. During the homily I called attention to the fact that the congregation would hear the couple pronounce their vows, "as long as there is love." I pointed out that the expression of vows was not just between the two, but also in the sight of God before Whom and in Whose presence they were pronouncing them. The issue was not just between two, but three, so to speak, because God is a witness. "There will always be love because God will always be there."

Only years later did the couple learn of my internal struggle on the occasion of their wedding. We have had our laughs about it. They are still happily married with a family and have not had to invoke the love of God for anything but support and strength.
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